So much so, that our own first dance was to “Something Special”- but that’s another story for another day!
There’s a wide variety of roles that ushers play at wedding ceremonies- depending on the level of formality, you can adjust as necessary to your own event. Whatever you decide, it’s important to communicate clearly with your friends or family who serve as your ushers! This is also a great place for your wedding planner to discuss your needs with you, and then work with the ushers on wedding day (and the rehearsal) to be clear on duties and roles.
Here’s a brief rundown of typical usher duties!
- Ushers can do formal seating for your guests. They offer their right arm to the woman, the gentleman she is with walks behind them, and the usher escorts them to their seats. If two women arrive together, formally, the usher escorts the eldest woman.
- Ushers can also show guests to their seats.
- Typically the first row or pew is reserved for immediate family- and ushers are the perfect way to keep it clear!
- Ushers pass out programs to guests as they arrive (be sure to advise one per guest, or one per couple, depending on how many you have opted to print
- If you have a bit more casual vibe, ushers can greet guests, pass out programs, and advise them of where to sit. (traditionally, guests fo the bride sit on the left, and guests of the groom sit on the left. If your guest count is skewed to one side, encourage guests to sit on either side, so the ceremony seating is evenly filled up!
- Once all guests have been seated, ushers typically seat the grandparents of the bride and groom, mother of the groom (husband walking behind) and then the mother of the bride.
- At the conclusion of the wedding, ushers should be available to escort the mother/grandmother/guests in need of assistance!
FYI- wondering how many ushers you need? A good rule of thumb is one usher for every 50 guests. Sometimes groomsmen serve as ushers- in lieu of additional wedding party members. My point being, your wedding is your wedding- there are options and a variety of “correct” procedures! Be sure to include your ushers in your boutonniere order- so they are easily distinguishable as affiliated with the wedding party. They can either wear tuxedos with the same lapel as the groomsmen, or simple coordinated dress suits- depending on the formality and location of your wedding.